On Being Bisexual in a “Straight” Marriage – Happy Pride!!

Hey, guys, I am Grace and thanks for watching Grace Smith TV. I was really nervous making this video today, which makes me feel like it is all the more important that I make it. So I am just going to dive right in and straight shoot talk to you about what it is like to be bisexual in a straight marriage. So my entire life I have been bi.

I knew it from a young age and I didn’t come out until about half way through college. A few years after that I met the love of my life and we got married. And ever since I married my soul mate, my world has gotten so much better. And yet I faced some very uncomfortable and some downright disrespectful experiences that I wanted to touch upon today.

Like, for example, I remember when I first got engaged and I was telling different members of my family and even some of my friends and they would say, “Oh, my God. Who are they? What do they do?” And I’d said, “Oh, he is amazing and he just graduated from college and he is five years younger than me and he doesn’t have a penny to his name, but we are so in love and we are going to have this amazing life.” And so many of the responses were, “Oh, honey, that is great.

That is wonderful. As long as he is a not a woman, we are thrilled.” And things like, “Oh, man, you were so wild when you were younger. I am so happy that you have gotten your life together and you are happy and you are healthy now, you know? You over came your struggles with drinking. You overcame that experimenting with women phase.” Or I will be talking about my relationship and going on and on and on about how wonderful my husband is and then someone will say, “He really is wonderful.https://www.womenshealthmag.com/relationships/g32435296/lesbian-dating-apps/

Does he know about you?” What do you… what do you mean? Like my soul mate, the person I share everything with, the person I trust the most in the world, does he know my sexual orientation? Yeah, he knows. And I want to make it very, very clear. My husband is the most incredible person on the planet and that is why I married him.

And if he had been born in the body of a woman I would have married her. And that wouldn’t have made me a lesbian. I still would have been bisexual, just like I am now and just like I will always be. You know, there are a lot of people in this community who are out 24/7 because of it they are tortured, they are killed, they are bullied, they are ostracized, they are discriminated against.

My entire life, if I wanted to, I could have very easily passed as straight. But I am not. And I am not an ally even though I love allies. I am the b in LGBT. And so I just wanted to take a minute to stand up and say, “I am proud of it.” The more that people talk about their sexual orientation, who they really are and continue to talk about it regardless of who they end up with, the more we are able to open the eyes of those around us and the better the world becomes for all of us.

So when I walk down the street holding hands with my husband is it comfortable passing? Sure. But is that what I went through with all of my previous girlfriends, the women I loved and the relationships I adored? No. So in honor of them, in honor of all of the members of this community: From all of us to all of you: Happy Pride!

Yeah. Thank you so much for watching. If you enjoyed this video, please share it with your loved ones. And if you want to receive a daily note of inspiration from me straight into your inbox, go ahead and click the box now.

Plug in your email and every single day I will send you a short, little grace note that will help you reprogram your subconscious mind so that you can live the life of your design. Thanks again and see you next time. And I am proud of it.

Hey, guys, I am Grace and thanks for watching Grace Smith TV. I was really nervous making this video today, which makes me feel like it is all the more important that I make it. So I am just going to dive right in and straight shoot talk to you about what it is like to be bisexual in a straight marriage. So my entire life I have been bi.

I knew it from a young age and I didn’t come out until about half way through college. A few years after that I met the love of my life and we got married. And ever since I married my soul mate, my world has gotten so much better. And yet I faced some very uncomfortable and some downright disrespectful experiences that I wanted to touch upon today.

Like, for example, I remember when I first got engaged and I was telling different members of my family and even some of my friends and they would say, “Oh, my God. Who are they? What do they do?” And I’d said, “Oh, he is amazing and he just graduated from college and he is five years younger than me and he doesn’t have a penny to his name, but we are so in love and we are going to have this amazing life.” And so many of the responses were, “Oh, honey, that is great.

That is wonderful. As long as he is a not a woman, we are thrilled.” And things like, “Oh, man, you were so wild when you were younger. I am so happy that you have gotten your life together and you are happy and you are healthy now, you know? You over came your struggles with drinking. You overcame that experimenting with women phase.” Or I will be talking about my relationship and going on and on and on about how wonderful my husband is and then someone will say, “He really is wonderful.

Does he know about you?” What do you… what do you mean? Like my soul mate, the person I share everything with, the person I trust the most in the world, does he know my sexual orientation? Yeah, he knows. And I want to make it very, very clear. My husband is the most incredible person on the planet and that is why I married him.

And if he had been born in the body of a woman I would have married her. And that wouldn’t have made me a lesbian. I still would have been bisexual, just like I am now and just like I will always be. You know, there are a lot of people in this community who are out 24/7 because of it they are tortured, they are killed, they are bullied, they are ostracized, they are discriminated against.

My entire life, if I wanted to, I could have very easily passed as straight. But I am not. And I am not an ally even though I love allies. I am the b in LGBT. And so I just wanted to take a minute to stand up and say, “I am proud of it.” The more that people talk about their sexual orientation, who they really are and continue to talk about it regardless of who they end up with, the more we are able to open the eyes of those around us and the better the world becomes for all of us.

So when I walk down the street holding hands with my husband is it comfortable passing? Sure. But is that what I went through with all of my previous girlfriends, the women I loved and the relationships I adored? No. So in honor of them, in honor of all of the members of this community: From all of us to all of you: Happy Pride!

Yeah. Thank you so much for watching. If you enjoyed this video, please share it with your loved ones. And if you want to receive a daily note of inspiration from me straight into your inbox, go ahead and click the box now.

Plug in your email and every single day I will send you a short, little grace note that will help you reprogram your subconscious mind so that you can live the life of your design. Thanks again and see you next time. And I am proud of it.

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