May 15, 2021

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How to Tell if Someone is Gay

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I was on tumblr and I was asking you guys for advice scenarios to then make a video. I got 1 thing a number of times, so I decided let’s just make a whole video about that. Whole thing about that. So let’s do that. Here’s a scenario: non-straight person wants to know if this person is also non-straight so that they can then court.

In other words, how do I know if they’re gay? Or bi, pan, etc. We’re gonna use gay as an umbrella term. Because it’s easier. It’s easy to do.

I was on tumblr and I was asking you guys for advice scenarios to then make a video. I got 1 thing a number of times, so I decided let’s just make a whole video about that. Whole thing about that. So let’s do that. Here’s a scenario: non-straight person wants to know if this person is also non-straight so that they can then court.

In other words, how do I know if they’re gay? Or bi, pan, etc. We’re gonna use gay as an umbrella term. Because it’s easier. It’s easy to do.

I’m gonna subtract the sexualities and labels here for a hot second. In general, when it comes to dating and being into people, being direct is always better than not being direct. It’s simpler, it’s straightforward, and you get answers real quick. Let’s add the sexualities back in here because in my experience, I’ve found that it’s much easier to just ask them. Just ask them.

Just ask people. But do it in private, like a 1-on-1 safe conversation, because nobody really needs to be a part of that conversation other than the people having it. So make it private, make it chill, make it non-threatening, and just ask them.https://seniordatingagency.co.za/ It’s simple. I understand the apprehension, because what if this person reacts negatively to being asked this question?

Dear straight people, stop being offended when people ask if you’re gay. Because I don’t know if you’ve heard or read the papers recently, but it’s okay to be gay. There’s nothing wrong with it and it’s not a personal attack at your character to be asked if you’re gay. So just, don’t. Generally, if someone reacts negatively to this question, it’s something going on with them and not you.

It’s important to remember that, maybe apologize, and then just move on. Separate yourself from the situation because it has nothing to do with you, the asker, here. If someone reacts negatively to being asked about their sexuality either 1) they hate gay people. In which case, get them out.

They don’t need to be here. Or 2) they’re struggling with it. They’re confused with it. They’re trying to figure it out for themselves, and they’re not ready to identify publicly yet.

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Nobody wants to be yanked out of the closet. Nobody wants that at all, and it’s not cool to do that to other people. Don’t out anyone, ever. Even if you want to date them.

Do not out them. I don’t care if someone is effeminate as heck, if they speak with a lisp, maybe they wear “women’s clothing.” I don’t care. If they identify as straight, don’t. Just don’t. Don’t do it.

Because essentially what you’re doing then is relying on stereotypes, and we don’t wanna do that! We don’t wanna do that, I think. Pretty sure we don’t wanna do that.

I don’t wanna do that. So let’s break this down. It’s okay to ask people their sexuality. Just do it privately, in a safe space, and again if they react negatively, that’s something with them and not you.

So don’t take it personally. Don’t. It’s like any kind of rejection. It sucks and it hurts, but at the end of the day, you don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you.

So in my mind, when somebody says “I don’t want to be with you.” I’m like, “Cool! I don’t want to be with you either.” And that’s that, and I move on with my life. That’s pretty much it though, guys.

If you have any more thoughts on this matter, because I know there’s probably a lot, you can leave them in the comments and I will be checking them out. For those who have been following me for a while, you know that a couple years ago I did YouNow pretty regularly. I’m actually gonna be doing it again!

How exciting is that? So this Wed, 2 days from today, at 7 pm EDT, I’m going live on YouNow. If you follow me on twitter, tumblr, facebook, all those places, you’ll be able to get the link when I go live and everything, so definitely check those out. I’m excited, and I hope you guys come to see it because I’m moving into my new apartment and you’ll see that. It’ll be a fun little adventure time that we have together.

And also going live is a lot of fun, so come check me out on YouNow. That’s pretty much it. I love you guys a lot and I will see you on Friday.

FWAH jamz Yeah, this is the last we’re gonna be filming in here unfortunately because this is way bigger than my apartment. But I’m moving in tomorrow I’m excited about it, gonna build a cool little space and you guys are gonna get to know it a lot because I’m gonna make videos from it. See ya next time!