How to Get Over a Guy You Never Dated (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)

“I’m in my forties, and most of the guys I meet” “are in their thirties.” “How/Where do I meet” “more age appropriate men?” These are good questions. “Any tips for changing limiting beliefs?” “Not just about men, but beliefs as well?” Nice. Jameson: So what’s the main difference between this event, and other ones you’ve done? This event is an experiment. [Laughter] I’m gonna make this an open conversation. Some of you may know I have a program called Fast Track to Mr.

Right, where every month I get on a live webinar with people, and I answer questions from all over the world. And I thought, wouldn’t it be fun to do that live. To actually have a live session where people ask me questions. I was your hostage for a couple of hours, and you can talk to me about things that are exciting to you, or things that are troubling you, or things that are challenging you in this area of your life.

My question is, how do you get over somebody that you’re not actually dating? Yeah… Yeah, my brother actually…

Who here reads my brother, Stephen’s articles? A few of you? He wrote an article, which was really a wonderful title, “How to get over someone you’ve never dated.” It goes back to, what it is you wanna romanticize.

“I’m in my forties, and most of the guys I meet” “are in their thirties.” “How/Where do I meet” “more age appropriate men?” These are good questions. “Any tips for changing limiting beliefs?” “Not just about men, but beliefs as well?” Nice. Jameson: So what’s the main difference between this event, and other ones you’ve done?https://www.nbcnews.com/better/lifestyle/emma-watson-says-she-s-self-partnered-here-s-what-ncna1078871 This event is an experiment. [Laughter] I’m gonna make this an open conversation. Some of you may know I have a program called Fast Track to Mr.

Right, where every month I get on a live webinar with people, and I answer questions from all over the world. And I thought, wouldn’t it be fun to do that live. To actually have a live session where people ask me questions. I was your hostage for a couple of hours, and you can talk to me about things that are exciting to you, or things that are troubling you, or things that are challenging you in this area of your life.

My question is, how do you get over somebody that you’re not actually dating? Yeah… Yeah, my brother actually…

Who here reads my brother, Stephen’s articles? A few of you? He wrote an article, which was really a wonderful title, “How to get over someone you’ve never dated.” It goes back to, what it is you wanna romanticize.

Whether you wanna romanticize someone from afar, or whether you wanna fall in love with the reality of life. And I just… The days of me being able to get excited about someone who’s not excited about me are over. I can’t…

I can’t find the energy to get excited about someone who doesn’t want me. If someone doesn’t want me, it kind of… It kills it for me.

It kills it. It’s like, I know this person will make me so unhappy. So when we meet a guy, and we are in the beginning, and the guy wants to show all the beautiful sides of his personality… values in life, and he’s perfect, and he’s amazing.

Nothing bad about it. So you fall in love. <i>Stupid.</i> [Laughter] Me. [Laughter] [Laughter] And then, three months, four months after… The guy goes to the black side, and everything falls, [Laughter] and then he’s completely different, and then he’s treating you bad, and then it just gets worse, and worse, and worse, but you are there, and you’re already in love. Two questions. First.

How to recognize the traps? Who are you? Like, how to recognize who the guy really is?

Like his personality, and everything. Second. How to get rid of him, [Laughter] when you’re already in love? [Laughter] [Applause] I’m probably gonna say to you at the end of this little rant of mine, you should probably leave the guy.

No, I broke up this morning. Oh. Okay. [Laughter & Applause] Very good. [Laughter & Applause] [Laughter & Applause] But by the way, everything I’m saying to you now…

How long were you together? One year and three months. One year, three months. Yeah.

One year, three months. How quickly… Be honest. Yeah. How quickly did you know it was wrong?

Honestly… Really… Seriously. Seriously, since the beginning. Okay.

Very good. Thank you for the honesty. So let’s look at you.

You stayed in it for a year and three months. Why? Because I didn’t want to be alone. Good. Thank you…

Wonderful honesty. I didn’t wanna… [Applause] Yeah. [Applause] [Applause] I didn’t wanna be alone. [Applause] By the way, what a great morning to break-up with someone. [Laughter] Did it really… This happen this morning? [Laughter] You said, ‘I’m gonna do it now,’ [Laughter] ‘because two hours from now’ [Laughter] ‘I’m gonna feel like the shit.’ [Laughter] [Laughter] ‘So I can do this now knowing that’ [Laughter] ‘I’m gonna come out great today.’ Exactly. [Laughter] Exactly. [Laughter] We should do that.

We should start like… Let’s like send an e-mail… [Laughter] two days, or the night before the event when we do an event like this, and say, “If you have been thinking about this.” “If you know it’s the right thing.” “Break-up with them this morning.” [Laughter] “Because I’m gonna put you back together” “when you come to the event.” [Laughter] We should do that. [Applause] That’s interesting. [Applause] This is the work that I wanna do. Using our abilities now, our depth of experience to actually help people. It feels like it’s where we are right now. It feels like it’s mature.

Jameson: What do you think has changed the most about your content over the last five years? Look… It’s not that… Like everything I’ve ever done, I’ve always…

I still agree with. I still use it. Like it would be hypocritical for me to say, I don’t like it, ’cause I still use it all the time.

But I… I’m trying to put my finger on why this feels right, and I think in my mind it feels right because I really… This concept feels like we’re…

I can picture all of the people out there who will be helped in the moment by this concept.