How To Help Her Orgasm

Oh hi babes! It is three in the morning, this is the latest, or earliest, I’ve ever filmed a video, so if you’ve ever doubted my commitment to orgasms now is the time to reevaluate yourself. One of the things that y’all have been emailing me about lately is helping your girlfriend have an orgasm. You already know that I think orgasms will bring world peace and so here are my tips, but first a few footnotes: 1. This is not a formula for sex.

All over the internet there are these guys that are like “touch the boob for one minute, kiss her neck for one minute, gaze intently in her eyes, go back to boob” but here’s the problem with that: sex is not a science, it’s not a series of steps, it is an art. footnote 2. For the guys that have been emailing me, male sexual performance is very much wrapped up in our society’s ideas about masculinity. I mean think about it. How big a guy’s dick is, or how long he lasts in bed, or how many chicks he sleeps with are very much a way that we can use to raise guys up in status or to emasculate them, mock them, and embarrass them. So generally, I think it’s important for guys to be critical of how masculinity informs their view of their sexuality, and particularly sexual performance so that it doesn’t become a road block. Alright, tip 1: First thing’s first, this always bears repeating, you’ve got to make sure that you’re having good vibes outside of the bedroom before you can hope to have good vibes in the bedroom.

So if there’s some sort of stress or conflict, you’re not really sure where you stand with each other, those kinds of things can get in the way.http://www.themenevent.com/gay-speed-dating Good communication is hot, it is a type of foreplay, and it definitely sets the stage for intimacy. as does consent, of course, you definitely want to make sure to do a quick verbal check-in with your partner, make sure you’re on the same page. “You cool with this?” “Does that feel alright?” “Yeah?” Slow it down a little, don’t rush. This is the advice I would give to every person I’ve ever slept with. Nipples, backs, thighs, necks. Touching, kissing, oral sex.

I think I just wrote a poem. All of these things are equally as important as penetration. So take some time here without rushing, sometimes people call this “foreplay.” I don’t call it foreplay, that positions penetration as the actual sex when really the entire experience is the actual sex.

That’s a golden mindset for being a good lover, in my opinion. Tip 3: know your partner’s anatomy. For instance, the clitoris is really important, it’s like the orgasm command center. It is accessed directly outside of the vagina it sits at the top of the inner lips, also indirectly inside the vagina. Two inches in, come hither motion, otherwise known as the g-spot.

Oh hi babes! It is three in the morning, this is the latest, or earliest, I’ve ever filmed a video, so if you’ve ever doubted my commitment to orgasms now is the time to reevaluate yourself. One of the things that y’all have been emailing me about lately is helping your girlfriend have an orgasm. You already know that I think orgasms will bring world peace and so here are my tips, but first a few footnotes: 1. This is not a formula for sex.

All over the internet there are these guys that are like “touch the boob for one minute, kiss her neck for one minute, gaze intently in her eyes, go back to boob” but here’s the problem with that: sex is not a science, it’s not a series of steps, it is an art. footnote 2. For the guys that have been emailing me, male sexual performance is very much wrapped up in our society’s ideas about masculinity. I mean think about it. How big a guy’s dick is, or how long he lasts in bed, or how many chicks he sleeps with are very much a way that we can use to raise guys up in status or to emasculate them, mock them, and embarrass them. So generally, I think it’s important for guys to be critical of how masculinity informs their view of their sexuality, and particularly sexual performance so that it doesn’t become a road block. Alright, tip 1: First thing’s first, this always bears repeating, you’ve got to make sure that you’re having good vibes outside of the bedroom before you can hope to have good vibes in the bedroom.

So if there’s some sort of stress or conflict, you’re not really sure where you stand with each other, those kinds of things can get in the way. Good communication is hot, it is a type of foreplay, and it definitely sets the stage for intimacy. as does consent, of course, you definitely want to make sure to do a quick verbal check-in with your partner, make sure you’re on the same page. “You cool with this?” “Does that feel alright?” “Yeah?” Slow it down a little, don’t rush. This is the advice I would give to every person I’ve ever slept with. Nipples, backs, thighs, necks. Touching, kissing, oral sex.

I think I just wrote a poem. All of these things are equally as important as penetration. So take some time here without rushing, sometimes people call this “foreplay.” I don’t call it foreplay, that positions penetration as the actual sex when really the entire experience is the actual sex.

That’s a golden mindset for being a good lover, in my opinion. Tip 3: know your partner’s anatomy. For instance, the clitoris is really important, it’s like the orgasm command center. It is accessed directly outside of the vagina it sits at the top of the inner lips, also indirectly inside the vagina. Two inches in, come hither motion, otherwise known as the g-spot.

But again, you don’t want to rush here, you want to take your time and build anticipation, If you go straight to the clitoris, or start fingering right away um, your partner is not going to be as aroused, it’s not going to feel as good, the clitoris isn’t going to be as sensitive, so you know, take a little more time in other places. Tip 4: When it comes to clitoral stimulation on the outside, avoid like really mashing into it or rubbing it really hard unless your partner tells you that they’re into that. which, you know, they might be if their clitoris isn’t as sensitive. It’s important to really start gently and use lubrication or spit.

This is a very, very sensitive body part. Very sensitive. So sensitive that if it’s over-stimulated, or if you push too hard, it’s gonna hurt. Tip 6. This is actually my main overall golden tip.

I don’t know why I put it as number 6. Ask your partner what feels good. It is absolutely okay to get to know someone’s body with your words as well. I like to get playful and play this little game. Be like, okay, now I’m gonna try out some different sensations and on a scale of 1 to 10 you tell me how it feels to you.

And then I know what parts feel good, what kind of touch feels good. And I can explore in a way that’s going to be more pleasurable for them. Tip 7. Something that I see in porn sometimes is that when a woman is about to “orgasm” and I use quotations because a lot of the time it’s not a real orgasm, their male part will speed up or go harder. Some people like this, yeah, but in general a very steady consistent repetitive motion is what is going to lead to orgasm. So when you’re getting the signs, you know, flushed chest, heavier breathing, things like that, that’s a sign to just keep doing what you’re already doing.

Tip 8. You can keep things fresh by keeping the conversation going about what kinds of things you find sexy, or you fantasize about, or what you might like to try together. And I’m going to link a bonus video in the description with an unboxing and some toy ideas for couples. Other than that, it’s up to you to explore.

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