How To Let Go Of Your Ex & Stop Being Jealous

Hi and welcome to Richey’s Coaching’s YouTube channel. Today, I’ll be covering a topic that is very dear to my heart because I’ve been witnessing what it has been doing to people, what it does to people. And I put a lot a lot of work into this area to make sure that it would never take over my life, and the topic is jealousy.

Why is it sometimes that you’ve decided that somebody is not a good fit for you, that this is not the partner that you should be with that this person is causing you more harm than he or she is bringing you happiness, love, excitement, fulfillment passion (whatever it is for you), you still find yourself getting jealous. You’re becoming jealous of who this person is with, you get jealous over the fact that this person might become really, really successful. And you don’t think it’s fair that this person gets to live a certain type of life, or a certain type of lifestyle that they’re living because of what he or she did to you. And sometimes you want to sit and think about this, and when you really, really think about it, analytically it doesn’t make sense to you that your are feeling this way, but most of the time you are feeling this way and because you are, subconsciously this becomes what you believe. You don’t believe that this person should be enjoying life the way that he or she is enjoying life, and you don’t understand where this is coming from because you might even be in a new relationship you might even be thinking that you’re happy, that you’re free, that you’re really succeeding in life.https://popculture.com/celebrity/news/is-chris-evans-dating-lily-james/

But similar to forgiveness, jealousy is something that chains us, and it’s not about what this person is doing, it’s not about who this person is with. It’s the fact that You have connected to, and changed yourself for, someone who you probably wanted to change. Maybe you saw a lot of potential in this person. Or maybe you thought that you were going to be the one who would eventually and hopefully, and first time ever help this person turn their life around, but this person didn’t. And you tried, and you tried, and you tried, and you kept trying, and you started trying harder and harder.

So you stopped investing in yourself, and you started putting so much focus, and so much energy into this other person because you wanted to see change in them so badly. And you did it, and you realized that this is not a good fit for you. You’re not supposed to be with this person.

So you ask yourself? Why am I still caring about what type of lifestyle this person is living? Why am I still caring about who this person is with?

I don’t want to be with her, I don’t want to be with him, but I still care about her who he or she is with. And why is that? Well, the reason is the level of emotional weight, emotional connection, and emotional responsibility you’ve laid on yourself, where you decided to put your focus. Because you decided to put so much energy, and so much focus, and you decided to invest in somebody’s potential. And while you were there through the journey (or part of the journey), or the fictional journey, you weren’t there to experience the outcome.

Somehow deep down you knew that it might be possible that this person doesn’t change. Let’s go back to it. So why is it so difficult to move on?

Other than the connection that you have. Because even though you’re not with this person anymore, you’re still letting your energy go towards this person. If you want a different life you need to change the way you think. And when you change the way you think, you’re going to change how you feel and vice versa. But in order to change the way think and to change the way you feel, you need to start taking action in different ways Most people they can’t be smiling and be unhappy at the same time.

A lot people know what makes them happy; some people are really excited when they workout, but when you get to the point that you’re so obsessed with a person that you’re still getting jealous, and that you’re still thinking about this person, it’s because you’re positioning yourself, and you’re putting yourself in the same situation over and over again. Maybe you haven’t blocked this person from Facebook Maybe you haven’t removed this person from Instagram. Maybe you still have this person’s phone number in your contacts. You’re not allowing yourself to move on, and you’re continuing to direct your energy and your focus towards this person.

The best thing and the best medicine that you can take, and that I would give you is to continue to work on you. And when I say work on you, that doesn’t just mean and wake up and say, “Oh I’m going to have a great day.” Work on you meaning: invest in a coach, make somebody hold you responsible, whether it’s us, or somebody else. Number two is: make sure you read books about personal development, about personal growth, read books about any type of way that you can improve as a person. And number three is: Cut the chain.

And how do you cut the chain? Well, like I just mentioned before most people don’t remove their exes from social media. Make sure you do that. If you want to change your life, you need to change the environment Let me say that again- If you want to change your life, you need to change the environment that you’re in.

The environment that you’re in is usually caused by your actions, which it is in this situation because you’re still letting this person affect you, and nobody’s suffering but you. It’s the same thing as with forgiveness. You don’t even want to admit to yourself that you’re jealous. You don’t want to admit to yourself that you’re still emotionally tied to this person because it doesn’t make sense to you. But instead of being harsh to yourself, instead of having those nights where you’re just yelling at yourself where you’re just really frustrated, where you can’t understand what’s going on with you, and then you call yourself crazy, and you start speaking negatively to yourself.

Don’t do that. Make sure to change the environment. Make sure that you cut the chain. Make sure the direct your focus towards something else.

Work on yourself and find somebody who’s gonna keep you accountable. Hire a coach. A lot of people think coaches are expensive, but when you think about it, can you really afford not doing it because what you’re doing right now isn’t working for you, and you don’t want to be chained for the rest of your life.

You don’t want to be living a life where you’re controlled by somebody else. And they don’t even know that they’re controlling you, but you’re controlled by them because of your thoughts, and your thoughts are coming to you because of your actions. Another thing that you can do is – just to finish it up – when you get these thoughts, and have these emotions, and you remind yourself that, okay, let me reach out to my coach, let me read about how I can grow, let me think about some ways that I can work on my business. It might be When you recognize this, when you realize this congratulate yourself. The biggest reason why a lot of people consider themselves as a failing person is because they speak negatively to themselves, and they don’t give themselves credit for when they recognize something early on.

So it’s great if you can recognize that you’re falling into the same bad habits as before. It’s great, but you have to congratulate yourself. You should be your own best friend. You should. There is nobody who loves you the way you love you.

So make sure you take proper care of yourself. Hopefully this video was helpful, make sure to subscribe to our channel if you haven’t done so already. Any thoughts or comments that you have, make sure you put them in the comment field.

Take care.

How To Let Go Of Your Ex & Stop Being Jealous

Hi and welcome to Richey‘s Coaching’s YouTube channel. Today, I’ll be covering a topic that is very dear to my heart because I’ve been witnessing what it has been doing to people, what it does to people. And I put a lot a lot of work into this area to make sure that it would never take over my life, and the topic is jealousy. Why is it sometimes that you’ve decided that somebody is not a good fit for you, that this is not the partner that you should be with that this person is causing you more harm than he or she is bringing you happiness, love, excitement, fulfillment passion (whatever it is for you), you still find yourself getting jealous.

You’re becoming jealous of who this person is with, you get jealous over the fact that this person might become really, really successful. And you don’t think it’s fair that this person gets to live a certain type of life, or a certain type of lifestyle that they’re living because of what he or she did to you. And sometimes you want to sit and think about this, and when you really, really think about it, analytically it doesn’t make sense to you that your are feeling this way, but most of the time you are feeling this way and because you are, subconsciously this becomes what you believe.

You don’t believe that this person should be enjoying life the way that he or she is enjoying life, and you don’t understand where this is coming from because you might even be in a new relationship you might even be thinking that you’re happy, that you’re free, that you’re really succeeding in life. But similar to forgiveness, jealousy is something that chains us, and it’s not about what this person is doing, it’s not about who this person is with. It’s the fact that You have connected to, and changed yourself for, someone who you probably wanted to change. Maybe you saw a lot of potential in this person.

Or maybe you thought that you were going to be the one who would eventually and hopefully, and first time ever help this person turn their life around, but this person didn’t. And you tried, and you tried, and you tried, and you kept trying, and you started trying harder and harder. So you stopped investing in yourself, and you started putting so much focus, and so much energy into this other person because you wanted to see change in them so badly.

And you did it, and you realized that this is not a good fit for you. You’re not supposed to be with this person. So you ask yourself?

Why am I still caring about what type of lifestyle this person is living? Why am I still caring about who this person is with? I don’t want to be with her, I don’t want to be with him, but I still care about her who he or she is with. And why is that? Well, the reason is the level of emotional weight, emotional connection, and emotional responsibility you’ve laid on yourself, where you decided to put your focus.

Because you decided to put so much energy, and so much focus, and you decided to invest in somebody‘s potential. And while you were there through the journey (or part of the journey), or the fictional journey, you weren’t there to experience the outcome. Somehow deep down you knew that it might be possible that this person doesn’t change. Let’s go back to it.

So why is it so difficult to move on? Other than the connection that you have. Because even though you’re not with this person anymore, you’re still letting your energy go towards this person. If you want a different life you need to change the way you think.

And when you change the way you think, you’re going to change how you feel and vice versa. But in order to change the way think and to change the way you feel, you need to start taking action in different ways Most people they can’t be smiling and be unhappy at the same time. A lot people know what makes them happy; some people are really excited when they workout, but when you get to the point that you’re so obsessed with a person that you’re still getting jealous, and that you’re still thinking about this person, it’s because you’re positioning yourself, and you’re putting yourself in the same situation over and over again. Maybe you haven’t blocked this person from Facebook Maybe you haven’t removed this person from Instagram.

Maybe you still have this person’s phone number in your contacts. You’re not allowing yourself to move on, and you’re continuing to direct your energy and your focus towards this person. The best thing and the best medicine that you can take, and that I would give you is to continue to work on you. And when I say work on you, that doesn’t just mean and wake up and say, “Oh I’m going to have a great day.” Work on you meaning: invest in a coach, make somebody hold you responsible, whether it’s us, or somebody else.

Number two is: make sure you read books about personal development, about personal growth, read books about any type of way that you can improve as a person. And number three is: Cut the chain. And how do you cut the chain? Well, like I just mentioned before most people don’t remove their exes from social media. Make sure you do that.

Hi and welcome to Richey’s Coaching‘s YouTube channel. Today, I’ll be covering a topic that is very dear to my heart because I’ve been witnessing what it has been doing to people, what it does to people. And I put a lot a lot of work into this area to make sure that it would never take over my life, and the topic is jealousy.

Why is it sometimes that you’ve decided that somebody is not a good fit for you, that this is not the partner that you should be with that this person is causing you more harm than he or she is bringing you happiness, love, excitement, fulfillment passion (whatever it is for you), you still find yourself getting jealous. You’re becoming jealous of who this person is with, you get jealous over the fact that this person might become really, really successful. And you don’t think it’s fair that this person gets to live a certain type of life, or a certain type of lifestyle that they’re living because of what he or she did to you. And sometimes you want to sit and think about this, and when you really, really think about it, analytically it doesn’t make sense to you that your are feeling this way, but most of the time you are feeling this way and because you are, subconsciously this becomes what you believe. You don’t believe that this person should be enjoying life the way that he or she is enjoying life, and you don’t understand where this is coming from because you might even be in a new relationship you might even be thinking that you’re happy, that you’re free, that you’re really succeeding in life.

But similar to forgiveness, jealousy is something that chains us, and it’s not about what this person is doing, it’s not about who this person is with. It’s the fact that You have connected to, and changed yourself for, someone who you probably wanted to change. Maybe you saw a lot of potential in this person. Or maybe you thought that you were going to be the one who would eventually and hopefully, and first time ever help this person turn their life around, but this person didn’t. And you tried, and you tried, and you tried, and you kept trying, and you started trying harder and harder.

So you stopped investing in yourself, and you started putting so much focus, and so much energy into this other person because you wanted to see change in them so badly. And you did it, and you realized that this is not a good fit for you. You’re not supposed to be with this person.

So you ask yourself? Why am I still caring about what type of lifestyle this person is living? Why am I still caring about who this person is with?

I don’t want to be with her, I don’t want to be with him, but I still care about her who he or she is with. And why is that? Well, the reason is the level of emotional weight, emotional connection, and emotional responsibility you’ve laid on yourself, where you decided to put your focus. Because you decided to put so much energy, and so much focus, and you decided to invest in somebody‘s potential. And while you were there through the journey (or part of the journey), or the fictional journey, you weren’t there to experience the outcome.

Somehow deep down you knew that it might be possible that this person doesn’t change. Let’s go back to it. So why is it so difficult to move on?

Other than the connection that you have. Because even though you’re not with this person anymore, you’re still letting your energy go towards this person. If you want a different life you need to change the way you think. And when you change the way you think, you’re going to change how you feel and vice versa. But in order to change the way think and to change the way you feel, you need to start taking action in different ways Most people they can’t be smiling and be unhappy at the same time.

A lot people know what makes them happy; some people are really excited when they workout, but when you get to the point that you’re so obsessed with a person that you’re still getting jealous, and that you’re still thinking about this person, it’s because you’re positioning yourself, and you’re putting yourself in the same situation over and over again. Maybe you haven’t blocked this person from Facebook Maybe you haven’t removed this person from Instagram. Maybe you still have this person’s phone number in your contacts. You’re not allowing yourself to move on, and you’re continuing to direct your energy and your focus towards this person.

The best thing and the best medicine that you can take, and that I would give you is to continue to work on you. And when I say work on you, that doesn’t just mean and wake up and say, “Oh I’m going to have a great day.” Work on you meaning: invest in a coach, make somebody hold you responsible, whether it’s us, or somebody else. Number two is: make sure you read books about personal development, about personal growth, read books about any type of way that you can improve as a person. And number three is: Cut the chain.

And how do you cut the chain? Well, like I just mentioned before most people don’t remove their exes from social media. Make sure you do that. If you want to change your life, you need to change the environment Let me say that again- If you want to change your life, you need to change the environment that you’re in.

The environment that you’re in is usually caused by your actions, which it is in this situation because you’re still letting this person affect you, and nobody’s suffering but you. It’s the same thing as with forgiveness. You don’t even want to admit to yourself that you’re jealous. You don’t want to admit to yourself that you’re still emotionally tied to this person because it doesn’t make sense to you. But instead of being harsh to yourself, instead of having those nights where you’re just yelling at yourself where you’re just really frustrated, where you can’t understand what’s going on with you, and then you call yourself crazy, and you start speaking negatively to yourself.

Don’t do that. Make sure to change the environment. Make sure that you cut the chain. Make sure the direct your focus towards something else.

Work on yourself and find somebody who’s gonna keep you accountable. Hire a coach. A lot of people think coaches are expensive, but when you think about it, can you really afford not doing it because what you’re doing right now isn’t working for you, and you don’t want to be chained for the rest of your life.

You don’t want to be living a life where you’re controlled by somebody else. And they don’t even know that they’re controlling you, but you’re controlled by them because of your thoughts, and your thoughts are coming to you because of your actions. Another thing that you can do is – just to finish it up – when you get these thoughts, and have these emotions, and you remind yourself that, okay, let me reach out to my coach, let me read about how I can grow, let me think about some ways that I can work on my business. It might be When you recognize this, when you realize this congratulate yourself. The biggest reason why a lot of people consider themselves as a failing person is because they speak negatively to themselves, and they don’t give themselves credit for when they recognize something early on.

So it’s great if you can recognize that you’re falling into the same bad habits as before. It’s great, but you have to congratulate yourself. You should be your own best friend. You should. There is nobody who loves you the way you love you.

So make sure you take proper care of yourself. Hopefully this video was helpful, make sure to subscribe to our channel if you haven’t done so already. Any thoughts or comments that you have, make sure you put them in the comment field.

Take care.

How To Let Go Of Your Ex & Stop Being Jealous

Hi and welcome to Richey’s Coaching’s YouTube channel. Today, I’ll be covering a topic that is very dear to my heart because I’ve been witnessing what it has been doing to people, what it does to people. And I put a lot a lot of work into this area to make sure that it would never take over my life, and the topic is jealousy. Why is it sometimes that you’ve decided that somebody is not a good fit for you, that this is not the partner that you should be with that this person is causing you more harm than he or she is bringing you happiness, love, excitement, fulfillment passion (whatever it is for you), you still find yourself getting jealous.

You’re becoming jealous of who this person is with, you get jealous over the fact that this person might become really, really successful. And you don’t think it’s fair that this person gets to live a certain type of life, or a certain type of lifestyle that they’re living because of what he or she did to you. And sometimes you want to sit and think about this, and when you really, really think about it, analytically it doesn’t make sense to you that your are feeling this way, but most of the time you are feeling this way and because you are, subconsciously this becomes what you believe.

You don’t believe that this person should be enjoying life the way that he or she is enjoying life, and you don’t understand where this is coming from because you might even be in a new relationship you might even be thinking that you’re happy, that you’re free, that you’re really succeeding in life. But similar to forgiveness, jealousy is something that chains us, and it’s not about what this person is doing, it’s not about who this person is with. It’s the fact that You have connected to, and changed yourself for, someone who you probably wanted to change. Maybe you saw a lot of potential in this person.

Or maybe you thought that you were going to be the one who would eventually and hopefully, and first time ever help this person turn their life around, but this person didn’t. And you tried, and you tried, and you tried, and you kept trying, and you started trying harder and harder. So you stopped investing in yourself, and you started putting so much focus, and so much energy into this other person because you wanted to see change in them so badly.

And you did it, and you realized that this is not a good fit for you. You’re not supposed to be with this person. So you ask yourself?

Why am I still caring about what type of lifestyle this person is living? Why am I still caring about who this person is with? I don’t want to be with her, I don’t want to be with him, but I still care about her who he or she is with. And why is that? Well, the reason is the level of emotional weight, emotional connection, and emotional responsibility you’ve laid on yourself, where you decided to put your focus.

Because you decided to put so much energy, and so much focus, and you decided to invest in somebody’s potential. And while you were there through the journey (or part of the journey), or the fictional journey, you weren’t there to experience the outcome. Somehow deep down you knew that it might be possible that this person doesn’t change. Let’s go back to it.

So why is it so difficult to move on? Other than the connection that you have. Because even though you’re not with this person anymore, you’re still letting your energy go towards this person. If you want a different life you need to change the way you think.

And when you change the way you think, you’re going to change how you feel and vice versa. But in order to change the way think and to change the way you feel, you need to start taking action in different ways Most people they can’t be smiling and be unhappy at the same time. A lot people know what makes them happy; some people are really excited when they workout, but when you get to the point that you’re so obsessed with a person that you’re still getting jealous, and that you’re still thinking about this person, it’s because you’re positioning yourself, and you’re putting yourself in the same situation over and over again. Maybe you haven’t blocked this person from Facebook Maybe you haven’t removed this person from Instagram.

Maybe you still have this person’s phone number in your contacts. You’re not allowing yourself to move on, and you’re continuing to direct your energy and your focus towards this person. The best thing and the best medicine that you can take, and that I would give you is to continue to work on you. And when I say work on you, that doesn’t just mean and wake up and say, “Oh I’m going to have a great day.” Work on you meaning: invest in a coach, make somebody hold you responsible, whether it’s us, or somebody else.

Number two is: make sure you read books about personal development, about personal growth, read books about any type of way that you can improve as a person. And number three is: Cut the chain. And how do you cut the chain? Well, like I just mentioned before most people don’t remove their exes from social media. Make sure you do that.

If you want to change your life, you need to change the environment Let me say that again- If you want to change your life, you need to change the environment that you’re in. The environment that you’re in is usually caused by your actions, which it is in this situation because you’re still letting this person affect you, and nobody’s suffering but you. It’s the same thing as with forgiveness.

You don’t even want to admit to yourself that you’re jealous. You don’t want to admit to yourself that you’re still emotionally tied to this person because it doesn’t make sense to you. But instead of being harsh to yourself, instead of having those nights where you’re just yelling at yourself where you’re just really frustrated, where you can’t understand what’s going on with you, and then you call yourself crazy, and you start speaking negatively to yourself.

Don’t do that. Make sure to change the environment. Make sure that you cut the chain. Make sure the direct your focus towards something else.

Work on yourself and find somebody who’s gonna keep you accountable. Hire a coach. A lot of people think coaches are expensive, but when you think about it, can you really afford not doing it because what you’re doing right now isn’t working for you, and you don’t want to be chained for the rest of your life. You don’t want to be living a life where you’re controlled by somebody else. And they don’t even know that they’re controlling you, but you’re controlled by them because of your thoughts, and your thoughts are coming to you because of your actions.

Another thing that you can do is – just to finish it up – when you get these thoughts, and have these emotions, and you remind yourself that, okay, let me reach out to my coach, let me read about how I can grow, let me think about some ways that I can work on my business. It might be When you recognize this, when you realize this congratulate yourself. The biggest reason why a lot of people consider themselves as a failing person is because they speak negatively to themselves, and they don’t give themselves credit for when they recognize something early on. So it’s great if you can recognize that you’re falling into the same bad habits as before.

It’s great, but you have to congratulate yourself. You should be your own best friend. You should. There is nobody who loves you the way you love you.

So make sure you take proper care of yourself. Hopefully this video was helpful, make sure to subscribe to our channel if you haven’t done so already. Any thoughts or comments that you have, make sure you put them in the comment field.

Take care.