Her Boyfriend is 40 Years Older?! || Age Gap Couple Q&A

Hi, I’m Angela. And I’m Joe. And we are in an age gap relationship. Yes we are, if you couldn’t tell already by looking at us. You may know us from the UK Television show Age Gap Love.

We were in Season 1 Episode 1. At least a hundred people saw that so you may be one of those hundred. We also run a website called MayDecemberSociety.com which is a website that’s for anyone whose in an Age Gap relationship or those who are interested in an Age Gap relationship or interested in the idea of one. We’ve received a lot of questions.

We get a lot of questions. A lot of people want to know either about us or asking for advice about Age Gap relationships, the one’s they’re in or how to get in one, things like that. Our first video is going to be more about questions for the both of us so we can kind of introduce ourselves to you guys. So you have some questions? Yes. “What is your age gap?” Hmm.

What do you think? Well, our age gap is 40 years. 40?

Really? It’s 39 years the last time I checked. She’s rounding it up.

I like to round it up. Okay, so we’ll go with 40 but it’s really not, it’s 39 years. To be exact. Yep.

Okay. When we met, I was 60 and Angela was 21. Ooh, 21.

And that brings us to our next question. How did you meet? Well, we met behind a movie theater. Yes, I had come down from New York to do a film and Angela was in the cast and that’s really how we met. When we were behind a movie theater, it was an early Sunday morning and we were doing interviews for a local CBS affiliate and I noticed Angela sitting in a chair just relaxing.https://www.elle.com/culture/celebrities/a33831843/why-brad-pitt-nicole-poturalski-kept-dating-secret/

Quite lovely. But her knees were all bandaged up and I was wondering, “What’s going on here?” So I asked her and she told me that the day before she had been filming in a field and she was tossed around and she had been banged up and things of that nature and I was very much concerned because my experience doing film and television in New York, there were always wrestling mats and things like that and I asked her about that and she said, “No, they didn’t have anything like that,” and I became a little bit upset. Yeah, you spoke to the director and ever since then I had mats.

Amazingly, I had mats for the rest of my scenes, so. That’s right. He definitely saved me in that department. When we first met, I had thought that he was quite attractive and charming. You know, the way he spoke and the way he showed concern — And old.

Right? Go ahead. The way he showed concern for me. Awww.

It was very sweet. Yeah. So we happened to be on set again for a weekend shoot and that’s when we really started talking to each other, there was a lot of downtime.

Phew, I think the pheromones were going nuts there. Yeah. That was fun, that was great. Even one of our cast members ended up taking a photo of us together, strangely enough.

Wait, there was a photo and you were looking over at me. I was in a scene and you were helping them out doing the sound, boom or something. Oh yeah.

There’s another photo. I was doing sound and you could see Joe in the distance getting ready for a scene and than me with sound on kind of just watching him. Boom, she’s watching me. Wow.

It’s kind of creepy looking, but. And after Angela was finished with her filming that day, she was sticking around and I was so glad because I saw her in the background. I thought she had left for the day, I even asked someone where she had gone. You know, it’s kinda cutesy stuff.

I asked if she had gone. “Oh, she went with so-and-so to get something to eat for the cast.” And she came back so I knew she’d still be around, and that was fun. You know those feelings you get when you’re interested in someone? You can go back years and think of those special feelings you get.

Well, you can get them when you’re older too. That was really fun. So at the end of that day, Joe kind of asked me out.

Like, just to hang out later. Yeah, I did. Actually that night, I was packing up to go on a trip to my cousin’s wedding, so I couldn’t.

Hi, I’m Angela. And I’m Joe. And we are in an age gap relationship. Yes we are, if you couldn’t tell already by looking at us. You may know us from the UK Television show Age Gap Love.

We were in Season 1 Episode 1. At least a hundred people saw that so you may be one of those hundred. We also run a website called MayDecemberSociety.com which is a website that’s for anyone whose in an Age Gap relationship or those who are interested in an Age Gap relationship or interested in the idea of one. We’ve received a lot of questions.

We get a lot of questions. A lot of people want to know either about us or asking for advice about Age Gap relationships, the one’s they’re in or how to get in one, things like that. Our first video is going to be more about questions for the both of us so we can kind of introduce ourselves to you guys. So you have some questions? Yes. “What is your age gap?” Hmm.

What do you think? Well, our age gap is 40 years. 40?

Really? It’s 39 years the last time I checked. She’s rounding it up.

I like to round it up. Okay, so we’ll go with 40 but it’s really not, it’s 39 years. To be exact. Yep.

Okay. When we met, I was 60 and Angela was 21. Ooh, 21.

And that brings us to our next question. How did you meet? Well, we met behind a movie theater. Yes, I had come down from New York to do a film and Angela was in the cast and that’s really how we met. When we were behind a movie theater, it was an early Sunday morning and we were doing interviews for a local CBS affiliate and I noticed Angela sitting in a chair just relaxing.

Quite lovely. But her knees were all bandaged up and I was wondering, “What’s going on here?” So I asked her and she told me that the day before she had been filming in a field and she was tossed around and she had been banged up and things of that nature and I was very much concerned because my experience doing film and television in New York, there were always wrestling mats and things like that and I asked her about that and she said, “No, they didn’t have anything like that,” and I became a little bit upset. Yeah, you spoke to the director and ever since then I had mats.

Amazingly, I had mats for the rest of my scenes, so. That’s right. He definitely saved me in that department. When we first met, I had thought that he was quite attractive and charming. You know, the way he spoke and the way he showed concern — And old.

Right? Go ahead. The way he showed concern for me. Awww.

It was very sweet. Yeah. So we happened to be on set again for a weekend shoot and that’s when we really started talking to each other, there was a lot of downtime.

Phew, I think the pheromones were going nuts there. Yeah. That was fun, that was great. Even one of our cast members ended up taking a photo of us together, strangely enough.

Wait, there was a photo and you were looking over at me. I was in a scene and you were helping them out doing the sound, boom or something. Oh yeah.

There’s another photo. I was doing sound and you could see Joe in the distance getting ready for a scene and than me with sound on kind of just watching him. Boom, she’s watching me. Wow.

It’s kind of creepy looking, but. And after Angela was finished with her filming that day, she was sticking around and I was so glad because I saw her in the background. I thought she had left for the day, I even asked someone where she had gone. You know, it’s kinda cutesy stuff.

I asked if she had gone. “Oh, she went with so-and-so to get something to eat for the cast.” And she came back so I knew she’d still be around, and that was fun. You know those feelings you get when you’re interested in someone? You can go back years and think of those special feelings you get.

Well, you can get them when you’re older too. That was really fun. So at the end of that day, Joe kind of asked me out.

Like, just to hang out later. Yeah, I did. Actually that night, I was packing up to go on a trip to my cousin’s wedding, so I couldn’t.

So I said, “Oh, I’m really sorry, I can’t.” I don’t know if he thought I was kind of rejecting him or whatever. After I come back and like a week had gone by, I ended up asking him out to dinner. Cause I was around, you know. So I said, “Hey, wanna go to dinner?” You know, like it was that moment. Like she was around the corner.

And of course I come in, I come out of the car in a dress and heels, like “Bum, bum”. Five inch heels, I’m like, “Woah! Look at this, she’s an Amazon model or something.” She comes out, gorgeous, of course, as you can see. And we had a great time. And we’ve been together ever since.

Ever since, yep. The next question, which is sort of related to getting together, “How did your families react?” All of my family is located in the North, we live in Florida now. What I should have said is I was acting in New York and came here to do this film where I met Angela, and after meeting her, well, I decided to stay and this is where I live now. My son knows Angela and my brother-in-law has met her and they both like her, but that’s it.

So I don’t hear a lot from my family regarding Angela other than, “How’s she doing?” and that kind of thing. So they don’t really know her. So basically his answer is they don’t care. Haha! Yeah, but they care but they’re not saying anything.

Your family lives here so it’s a lot different, so I think her side is probably much more interesting than mine. I’m lucky enough that my family is very accepting. They kind of already knew that I had interest in older men because I was pretty open about it.

I was open about when I would get a crush on an older guy or older celebrity, and they never discouraged me. They were just kind of like, “Well, you know, that’s what you like. I don’t get it, but that’s what you like.” So when Joe entered the picture it wasn’t like a huge surprise. I would say most of my family, my immediate family was very happy for me. I think they could see the change in me because I became so much happier with Joe and I think they were very appreciative of Joe making me come out of my shell a little bit.

So I think they love Joe. They definitely love Joe. Aww, that’s sweet. So I’m very lucky for that.

I’ve heard a couple things, like distant family but they don’t really matter. So I don’t care. Oh, ouch. Well, you know, I just don’t care.

People I never was really close to in the first place, whatever. You know, I don’t talk to them anyway, so screw em’. Yeah. Well, you know, for me, if people have a negative opinion of our relationship, they’re really not going to say anything to me. Our next question is, “Who is more bothered by the Age Gap?” I think when we’re together, neither one of us is bothered by the age gap.

I’ll speak for both of us.Yeah, I think that’s fair. We’re just in our own lives, just living our lives. And we’re really not around other people, it’s just us.

So it’s just a relationship. So we don’t notice it, yeah. But I guess when we’re out, I notice the looks that we get, but I’m not bothered by it. Seeing as I did pursue him, I was expecting something like that, expecting a reaction. It’s just something that comes with the territory.

Sometimes when we’re out, I am very much aware of my surroundings. Well, I always have been. But I’m looking and I notice people who see us and regard us, probably unfavorably, I don’t know. I don’t ask them.

And maybe I’ll see them speak to whomever they’re with, make comments. And often when we are in a restaurant, what I find amusing is that when a waitress comes up and she says, “Something to drink?” and she looks at Angela and she says, “I’ll have a Pepsi,” and then I’ll have wine or something like that, and then I start to think, “I wonder if they think I’m her dad?” You know what I mean? It just seems like that, it’s that kind of situation. Angela, of course, will go out of her way to prove that she isn’t, and it’s kind of fun. But that’s where I notice it the most, restaurants.

And we have a funny story about that. This happened Valentine’s Day of last year. We’re all dressed up, dressed to the nines. You know, going on our Valentine’s Day night dinner, we’re so excited. So we go up to the hostess.

We’re kind of cuddled together, you know, I got my arm on his. We’re just looking cute, looking adorable. And then she says, “Will that be 3 of you?” and we’re like, whaaat? What is she talking about? 3? And we kind of look around.

We look behind us. 9 feet behind us by the door is this woman that’s more appropriate to Joe’s age. Yeah, an older lady.

I guess the mother figure standing in the back. This lady, we had no idea who she is. We had to tell her, “No, just the two of us.” Yeah, I guess she thought, Valentine’s Day night and the dad is really close to the daughter or something.

Really close to the daughter. Next question is kind of a deeper question, I guess. “What is the most difficult aspect of being in an Age Gap relationship?” Difficult. Mhmm. Wow.

I know what the most difficult thing is for me. It’s something that everyone in an Age Gap relationship has to face and I think that’s knowing that you found the love of your life, but unlike someone who’s not in an Age Gap relationship, you don’t get to spend 50 years with them or 40 years. You know you’re not going to be able to spend your life with that person. So you consciously think of that?

I mean, that’s in the back of your mind? It’s not necessarily in the back of my mind, I just try to live the best I can. Just enjoy every moment I have because I know that I will, in all likelihood, have to spend the rest of my life without him. Which is honestly a very horrible thing.

People are living longer, I could trick you and be around until I’m a hundred and something. It’s true. I mean, he could outlive me.

Probably true. But you just don’t have the, I guess, confidence of knowing. But, to me, to me spending 30 years with someone or however long with someone who you love is so much better than just saying, “Oh, well screw it. I’m not going to be able to spend the rest of my life with them. Why would it matter?” It’s worth every moment.

What would you say is the most difficult aspect for you being in an Age Gap relationship? It’s no different than any other relationship. It’s dealing with the personality over here. You know, it is the same thing. It doesn’t matter if she’s younger or older.

She has her own mind, her own opinions. It’s just like any other relationship. It really is.

Where you run into the differences is when you’re out of the comfort zone. When we leave the house and we go to that restaurant or we go to a store. It can be uncomfortable, maybe. We have stories where we were shopping.

Angela was trying some clothes on once and I’m giving her these dresses and she’s trying them on, and then this lady gets this dress down and she brings it. She says, “Oh this is a nice Homecoming dress.” So she just assumed that I’m her dad taking her out, getting her a dress. She had no clue what was going on.

That can be a little uncomfortable, and pretty funny. I think of this as a relationship. The age gap situation presents itself to me away from the home, and it’s not really bothersome. Sometimes it’s humorous.

Okay, now this is going to be our final question. Now, this one we’re going to give credit to the person who asked it. So this question comes from kmchick.

He says, “Hi guys. I just found your page today. My wife and I have a 30 year age difference, but we have no compatibility difference. I was so glad to see that there are more people out there who love each other and age is not an issue.

Is there a point that you feel is too big of an age gap for two people to be compatible? If so, then what is that point?” I would say that as long as it’s a legal relationship, then I don’t think there is too big of an age gap. You’re talking to someone who’s in a relationship with an almost 40 year age gap, so to say that I think there’s some arbitrary line that makes the age gap too big, it would be hypocritical of me. But even if I wasn’t, I just don’t think there is.

I don’t think that it matters whether it’s a 20 year old dating a 60 year old or a 30 year old dating an 80 year old. I think that compatibility doesn’t have to do with the age, compatibility has to do with the person. Yeah, and different people get different things out of a relationship. You made an example of an 80 year old and a 30 year old, now if the woman is the 30 year old and the guy’s the 80 year old, you’re going to hear gold digger and all of that kind of thing.

But what if that 30 year old, she makes him so happy that he wants her around all the time. Who are we to judge on that? I mean, these are relationships. They’re individuals. And for as long as we are all individuals, there are going to be different opinions of everything.

I think you’re right, I don’t think there is an age gap that is too great. So what do you guys think though? Do you think that there is an age gap that is too big?

If so, what do you think it is? Do you think it’s 30 years, 40 years, 50 years? They may think ours is too large after watching this.

Just let us know, comment below. So that’s all for the questions today. We receive so many questions and we’re happy to answer all of them. We’ll give you full credit for your question, or you can send them in anonymously, either way. And it can be about advice that you need with your own relationship, or questions about us, whatever.

Or you can give us advice, whatever you want to do. If you have a question that is urgent, that you want answered right away, then you have to go to MayDecemberSociety.com. There is a huge community of people on there that will answer your question immediately and we’re on there as well.

That’s where you can get us to respond pretty fast. You know, these videos will come around maybe once a week, but we’re always available to help on our website. If you’re in an Age Gap relationship or you want to know a little more about them, go to the website.

Join and contribute if you want, or just read the articles and read the comments that others have made, and you’ll find it a very nice community. The people are great. We love seeing pictures of couples and hearing success stories so if you’re an Age Gap couple, we would love to have you. We’d love to talk to you.

Join the community. That’s right, join the community. So we’ll see you next time with maybe some of your questions. Bye from Joe and Angela.

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